“Autigender”No, autism isn't actually a gender. But I can see how that neologism came to exist: Contrary to the old “extreme male brain” trope, it seems that many autistics/Aspies (including myself) have less distinctly‑gendered behavioral traits, and
definitely less gender‑conforming interests overall.
For example, I'm a heterosexual man but I do sometimes get involved in predominantly-aesthetic hobbies (like
cable braiding), as long as they don't conflict with functional/logical matters. As such, we might not identify very well with either gender's (neurotypical) stereotypes, or even necessarily somewhere between them.
The “autistics are asexual” myth is even less true, but (at least for me) it would be fair to say sexuality isn't the
big deal it is for neurotypical men…
Maybe Aspie sexuality is also more-flexible than the neurotypical forms, but I can't say I know enough other cases to give a population-level judgement.
If we entertain the speculative view (ala
Tony Attwood) that Asperger's is a further human evolution (more on that below), then more-androgynous behavior might also work as an adaptation to social environments which have unbalanced the traditional masculine/feminine duality (
previous post).
The relative “humanity” of autistics/Aspies?Moralistic bigots view or portray us as “subhuman”, whereas some (though far from all) of us find it superior in many respects.
(To an extent the latter may be from overlapping with high-intelligence, which might actually have some good reasons for being the case…)
While a “human/computer hybrid” metaphor (ala Gary Numan) can be some fun, it might also be possible to argue the other way and describe the Aspie mind as
extra human in having even-greater adaptability in some senses. (Such as moving from moralistic convictions to more empirical reasoning.)
I think much of the problem is that mainstream channels (apart from a handful of stereotypically-masculine fields, like computing) don't provide a place for Aspies to actually
use our advantageous traits. So if you're stuck there (which is especially common for 'Aspergirls'), then you'll indeed remain at a net disadvantage…